Let’s Go, No Thank You!

Girls rule sometimes


Hanging out with Sacral Manifesting Generators and Splenic Inner Authorities can sometimes be slightly challenging.

Especially when they don’t understand that I am an Emotional being with a very empty head. I know absolutely nothing and I never know in the moment what I want or want to do.Kashi.chart

In that moment, when they walk up to me and say, “Hey, lets do this now”.

I jerk, halt, startle and have to pull myself out of what I was passionately, heavily focused on. It’s a real, sudden disturbance in my reality. They have no idea.

Most people are not aware of this slight disturbance that the immediate experiences can have on an emotional system. To quickly change directions sends a strange ripple through the body with a hesitation and a rain cloud of confusion. It is very difficult to change directions quickly when you are an emotionally defined being.

“Sorry, cant do that now”, is usually my reply.

Albeit, most people don’t want to learn or understand so it’s a little bit of a challenge. When we start discussing chemistry, inner authorities, Types and strategies, people’s eyes begin to cloud over and I can see that I have lost them. Human Design is not for everybody.

It’s not an easy thing to do, explaining how we operate and how immediate responses, in the moment, will never work for the emotionally defined being. My pals might get frustrated at first but eventually they give up and see that it is exactly the way of the emotional being, in our own flow. It has absolutely nothing to do with their flow so they will have to go on in their own if they want to go NOW.

I might show up later, if I feel like it. I have no idea. As an emotionally defined being, I know nothing and certainly don’t know how I feel about it in the NOW.

Sound familiar?

Over half of the population, experience this sensation in a similar way when they encounter the other half. 50% of the population is not emotionally defined. Their movement is in the NOW and strategic to their Inner Authority.

Non-Emo vs Emo

The other half of the planet’s population is emotional and they never know in the moment what they feel like doing, what they want or how they truly feel about something. It’s a real drag on the movement of the boat down the river of flow.

My friends can see that if they give me at least two hours to wave through a decision, I will have some kind of clarity towards what kind of response feels best, eventually. It’s really very funny. Such as, “are you ready for dinner?” or “would you like to go for a walk now?” asked two hours in advance, gives me time to decide if I want to head that direction.

Just the act of giving a bit of time allows the emotionally defined to not stress and to slowly mull the idea over in the mind and wave through the body. Just a simple question about where to go to dinner can take all day and when the moment arrives, the emotionally defined being may still not have the answer. It’s an odd place to be surrounded by lots of people who make decisions in the moment. The emotionally defined being can look like a real freak, always unclear and slightly unsure.

But when the emotionally defined being is given me time to feel a decision out, it’s luxurious and so correct; there is no stress or pressure.

You can compare the emotional wave process to how one behaves when they shop. If I am out and about and come upon a store with something I like in the window, I feel excited and want to go inside to try it on or maybe even buy it. But what I choose to do is delight myself with the object and then, knowing that I am emotional, I drop the idea, leave the store and wait to see if the item comes back to my mind a day or two later.

If the item pops into my mind and I think about it. I drop the idea again and wait to see if it shows up in my mind, later, again. If the item shows up in my mind by the third time, I can see that I really want it and it will probably be useful for me.

It is this same process in decision making with the emotionally defined being. The defined Solar Plexus never has full clarity, maybe 60%, if they are lucky. But what comes back over time and feels like a “yes” consistently over time, is usually the right direction to go.

If the decision is about going out to dinner, I notice that my body will either go get dressed or go make dinner at home when its time. When that happens, I know where I am going and what is up next but not until that moment.

For those who are non-emotional (50% of population), please understand that the other half of the population does not have full clarity about what they want in the moment~ EVER. It is a wonderful sensation when the emotional being is given time to experience an idea or suggestion.

If someone is not ready or doesn’t know, and if you feel you must go, then please go and offer to catch up later, when it is convenient. There is no reason to make anyone feel bad or wrong for how they naturally move through life: fast or slow or somewhere in between.

Everybody has their own path and their own rhythm and it doesn’t always match.


Kashi Stone     2014