Children and Human Design

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Home school and supported in authenticity or institutionalized and conditioned?

I have witnessed and seen both ways and I have an opinion about it.


I have a watched children live out a home school environment that cultivated natural interests and talents and fed social needs according to their demand and watched the conditioning of institutions change the nature of the children, out of tune with their innate way of being and it is painful to watch.

It is thrilling when a parent is curious about their child’s design. To think that a child can be recognized and spoken to according to their Type is an amazing gift for a child. Manifestors are so different from Generators and Projectors are too, Reflectors, even more.

If the parent knows the Type of the child and understands how to communicate with the child through the tools of Human Design, the child is empowered into such a state of grace that carries them through out life; it’s like a good luck charm. They take the firm understanding of who they are, what they need and they have healthy boundaries that keeps them centered on their path towards a fulfilling life.

A woman came to me once. She was lovely, pleasant and sweet but had a bit of a haggard quality to her presence. Ill never forget that day when she looked up at me, slightly bewildered and with a slight whimper of ‘help’, “Can you please help me understand my son?”

I thought she might cry.

“Give me his birth data”, I said.

“Oh, he’s a Manifestor, an emotional Manfestor with a defined ego!” I commented as soon as I saw the boys chart.

No one else in the family or household was a Manifestor. No one else in the household had a defined ego. No wonder she was a bit haggard!

No one understood each other, either. No one knew that they were so unique and different and had unique needs. They did not know any of this until they looked to see who they are through the Human Design lens. Their whole world changed when they began to understand who they are, who the others are around them and just what the Manifestor child needed to feel okay, relaxed and understood. Thank heavens.

In addition, the family began to sleep in separate environments far away enough for each to empty their aura during the night. Their health began to improve; their communication with each other refined and their glow began to shine through.

Understanding each other is everything when you are living together in a group, community or family.

Understanding a child at a young age, learning to give them what they need to be authentic, happy, trusting, peaceful and satisfied is a great gift, an immense act of love.

Public Schools won’t do that, forced social environments wont do that, imposed belief systems wont do that. The only way to raise a child to be authentically who they are is by giving them the environment that they require to thrive, allowing them to tune in and navigate their body, their life, their direction, their own way.

You can teach them to speak their truth with you so you can support their movement. What teacher in school is going to provide that kind of support for your child?

A father came to me not too long ago, with his son seeking a Human Design introductory session. The father came to see me first and then his eight-year old son came on the second visit.

When I discovered that this child had Sacral authority (Channel 34/20), I began to teach him how to use his Sacral voice. When he saw and heard the sounds I was making and trying to teach him, he said to me “I use these sounds all the time but my father gets upset when I respond to him like that. He insists that I answer him in words, not these sounds.”

Oh wow, his father was in for a big surprise when he returned. I would have to tell him that this voice his son uses is absolutely necessary and true and very important for his health and well being.

While we were waiting for his father to return I prepared the boy a sandwich. We sat down to eat and all I could hear was his Sacral voice as he mmmm. I smiled and giggled as I listened to his Sacral voice tell me how much he was enjoying his lunch. If only his father knew.

When his father returned, I got to tell him how important this Sacral voice is that his son speaks with and to encourage his son to use it. The boy was so happy and relieved that he could be authentic and free in his communication that was so incredibly natural and correct for him. The father was relieved that he did not have to struggle to try and force the child to change from what he was doing naturally. The child couldn’t stop using his Sacral voice and now the father understood why.

If they not had their Human Design introductory session with me, and the child had continued to be chastised for using his Sacral voice he would have learned not to trust life and his most natural instincts. He would feel exhausted often from the mental battle over trying to understand what is correct for him while not seeing what he truly enjoys doing. He would give in and allow others to talk him into doing things that he really would not want to do. It could create a big mess for this child for the rest of his life. But he got lucky; he got a Human Design session.

Can you imagine going through life thinking that your Inner Authority, your Sacral voice is wrong? This is happening to a lot of children.

Over half of the population have emotional authority and are encouraged to wait to make decisions. It can actually be very unhealthy for a child with an open Spleen to be spontaneous. How many children are conditioned to act in the moment and not wait? So many, so many. And we wonder why our children become ill.

The expectations that our society puts on children as they are being raised and shaped into adults is so unnatural and lacking awareness.

Once a child is recognized properly and supported in their authenticity it is easy to negotiate with them when they are in the correct environment, surrounded by the right people and sleeping alone in their own aura at night to empty out all influences and get to their own chemistry. Yum.

Imagine a world with children who have been raised according to their own innate operating system and the tools to make it easy, simple and natural. Institutionalized education becomes mute when a child is allowed to research, study and pursue what they love most.

Everything is there to learn in measure as we grow and experience life. Our innate, genetic skills naturally lead us into what we need to learn to express our life path and feel immense satisfaction. Doing what we love and have the natural talent for naturally brings flow of abundance.

Perhaps someday science will discover and validate this too, but then again, universities would lose millions of dollars if children really knew and understood who they are and were allowed to be just that – free of others agenda’s and navigating from their soul.


Kashi Stone  2014